Come together, come within.

Losing touch with yourself happens quietly.

Finding your way back can happen just as gently. Small, everyday experiments to get to know yourself, regulate stress and what you feel, and feel like yourself again, together with others.

Nurturing your wellbeing and emotions, one day at a time.

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Hi, I'm Gaby

Pull up a chair.

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Fitting in takes more than it shows.

Adapting, working hard, integrating, doing things right: it's how most of us move forward, in automatic pilot. Somewhere along the way, it is easy to stop showing who you are, and disconnect from yourself.

Maybe you moved to a new country for a job or to study. Maybe you're starting over at home, after a career change or a plan that didn't go the way you expected. Either way, a part of you wants to be listened to.

Noticing that takes courage. It's where it all starts.

Why together

The way forward is to look inside yourself. It gets easier with others.

A table, a coffee, a few people who also want to feel more like themselves. Come as you are.

A notepad and a cup of coffee on a table

How it works

Invitations, not instructions.

I bring research-based tools for self-knowledge, emotion regulation, stress management and resilience: mindfulness, self-reflection, and working with the beliefs you carry. You choose what fits, try it in your daily life with curiosity instead of judgement, and see what happens. Your own experience becomes the evidence.

Look. Notice. Understand what's going on.

Explore. Try different approaches, with curiosity.

Apply. Practice, run the small experiment.

Reflect. Evaluate what happened.

Next. Adjust. Choose your next step.

Little by little, you get to know yourself better, meet stress and strong emotions with more calm, and bounce back more easily when life gets hard. You feel more like yourself.

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Ways to start

Pick a door that feels easy.

Cafecito date with yourself

Coffee, a quiet moment to go back to yourself, and a guest at the table worth getting to know.

[Den Haag & online]

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Inner Focus Club

Bring the task you keep postponing. We settle the mind first to ease the stress around it, then focus on one difficult thing together, without distractions, and check in at the end

[Den Haag & online]

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Circles & workshops

For when you want to go deeper.

Coming soon

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What to expect

No experience needed, just curiosity.

1

Arrive

We start with time for yourself, a short practice to land.

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Meet the guest

We explore one guest together: stress, strong emotions, self-doubt, your inner critic.

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Choose the experiment

You leave with one thing small enough to try this week, in your own life.

You share only what you want, and listening counts too. If you come alone, that's fine. Most of us arrive a little unsure.

Hi, I am Gaby.

I moved to the Netherlands with excitement, and built a life that looked good on paper: the PhD, the career, the right steps in order.

For a while, it worked. Then I noticed I'd built it for what would be recognized, more than for what actually made me happy. I know what it's like to lose track of yourself while trying to fit into a new country. Mindfulness and mind-body practices helped me find my way back. I created The Inner Experiment so people going through their own version of it don't have to find their way back to themselves alone.

My Journey